All my life I dreamed of a big fairytale wedding. The dress was going to be huge. The veil was going to go on for miles. There had to be hundreds of guests and it had to be in June. I made scrapbooks with pictures of how I wanted everything to be and how this would be the most perfect day of my life. If someone would have peaked into my future and told me how I would end up getting married I wouldn’t have believed them. My thoughts about my wedding day have changed tremendously and I couldn’t be happier about the way everything turned out.
I think a lot of us put so much pressure on ourselves and on this one day being so complete. This one day has to be perfect enough to give us happiness that will last us a lifetime. The perfect fairytale ending. But isn’t this day really the beginning of everything for most of us and not the ending that it is in the storybooks?
Today I think about it in a completely different light. What if a wedding day was more like a birthday that was celebrated every year? Like a birthday for the family that has been born. I love thinking about my wedding day like that. To create traditions with things you do every year on that day, places you can come back to, a dress you get to wear on that specific day every year. Maybe one year we order the wedding cake we didn’t have and eat it together with our children. One year maybe we exchange new rings, renew our vows, go on a honeymoon… Another year we might throw a party with all the people we never got to celebrate with. The thought of celebrating our marriage over and over again makes me so happy, instead of having one day in my life that I have to live for, for the rest of my life. Because being married to your person isn’t a one time decision. It’s something you decide every day. And celebrating like this every year, I feel represents that. Making that commitment to each other over and over again. Choosing to love each other over and over again. I feel like it’s a wonderful way to keep that love alive for a whole lifetime. That’s why my husband and I decided to get married just the two of us in a church and how I want to continue to celebrate my wedding day for the rest of my life.
